I’ve been lucky. I began playing when I was 3 years old and learned the game from my Father. He made sure I knew the basic etiquette of the game. Several of the club professionals I knew reinforced this etiquette throughout my Junior career. When I began playing competitive amateur golf, I learned an even more detailed etiquette which is appropriate for highly competitive rounds. Throughout my professional career, I’ve learned how important it is to observe this etiquette. It shows respect for your playing partners and, I believe, even helps everyone in the group play better because nobody is stressing over poor etiquette.
I’m often amazed at the lack of etiquette I encounter, even among my fellow professionals. That’s the motivation for this post. Maybe people will read this and learn some new things about proper etiquette, especially in a highly competitive event.
I don’t pretend the be the best observer of etiquette in the game, but I do think I’m at least adequate. Nobody is ever perfect. It’s something that needs to be practiced every time you tee it up.
The list below is by no means complete. I will gladly add appropriate information to the list. I’ll start off with the Etiquette Section in the USGA Rules of Golf. It’s a quick, easy read and highlights the basics.
Here are some of the more overlooked items of etiquette I’ve observed in competitive golf:
- The through-line: Everybody knows not to step on another players line on the putting green. You should also be careful not to step on their through-line. This is the line of a putt if it happens to miss the hole and go a reasonable distance past (about 3 feet or less). This is why you see professional golfers on TV stepping so carefully around the hole. They’re conscious of everyone’s line AND through-line.
- Shut-up when a player is “pitching a no-hitter”: If a player is having a great round or just performing one aspect of their round very well, don’t talk to them about it. For example, a player has 11 putts on the front side. Don’t tell them they’re having an extremely good putting round. This is likely to throw them out of their “zone”. Normally a player makes such a comment simply because they’re an idiot, but occassionally it’s done with ill-intent.
- Throwing a tantrum: We all get angry about missed shots or bad breaks. It’s what tests us most in the game - the ability to recover from a bad situation. For a lot of players, a little tantrum helps to get them focused. I’m not condoning it and not saying I’ve never had one. If you must cut it loose, it absolutely must not interfere with the other players’ shots.
- Looking for a lost ball: If a playing partner hits it into the wild and wants to look for it, help them. Continue helping them until they call off the search or the 5 minute time limit is clearly up. If you walk off during a search and stand in the fairway, you look like a jack-ass and absolutely ruin the group karma (goodwill) for the rest of the round. You’ve probably made a permanent enemy. The exception: A one-round qualifier and your playing partner has hit their 10th ball into the woods in 10 holes on the way to shooting 95. In this case, the 95-shooter has made a serious breach by entering a tournament that they clearly do not belong in, thereby causing a major distraction to his playing partners. This happens a lot!
- Observe the sight-lines of a player reading a putt who is next to putt: If a player is next to play and reading their putt, don’t walk between them and the area they’re trying to read. It’s distracting.
- Hit it and get out of the way: If you’ve just hit a bad shot, don’t stand around grumbling in the way of players who need to hit next. It unduly delays the play of other players in the group. Almost as importantly, you’re indirectly forcing the other players to really focus on that bad shot right before they have to hit one themselves.
- Don’t be a distraction: From the time a player gets into his pre-shot routine until they’re finished with their shot, shut-up and stand still. Notice that I included the pre-shot. For most players, attention during the pre-shot is as important as the shot itself. Don’t be a distraction.